Disagree With Me

One of the reasons I write so frequently here is that I love reading your take on things.

Sometimes I’ll write about things I know something about; other times I’ll write about things I’m not so sure about. Regardless, the most rewarding part is reading the comments (even if they have been slow recently – Twitter seems to be replacing commenting for a lot of people, but that’s a topic for another day… and I value them both).

Sometimes I get people here who strongly disagree with me. Often, other people tell me to stop interacting with those people as “I’ll never win.”

Here’s the thing: I don’t aim to “win.”

Every day I look forward to seeing comments on my posts so that I can learn. When I respond, I hope that the other person learns something too, even if it’s just a different perspective. I don’t need to “win” each disagreement.

I learn the most when people disagree with me. It makes me reconsider my thinking. It forces me to remember that the world isn’t black and white; it’s shades of grey. As long as the person stays within my commenting policy, I welcome disagreement.

For me, the worst possible reaction to a post is silence.

So please, if you read something on here and you think I’m way off target, please tell me. I’ll learn, maybe you’ll learn, and we both win.

It’s not wrong to disagree here. I welcome it.

6 Responses toDisagree With Me

  • As a new blogger waiting for comments, can’t disagree with this.

  • I like this approach. I hated flaming, even when I was simply lurking, and I love constructing knowledge socially. Thanks for being explicit.

  • Dana Bacon
    ago11 years

    Couldn’t agree more–I delight in getting my friends and acquaintances to vocalize their concerns and ideas. It beats silence every time.

  • I cant agree with this ,evry one need some comments and need to know their opinion and ides

  • Exactly! If I’m learning, I’m also winning. There’s so much to gain from exploring all sides of something. That’s really what the internet was created for in the first place! Couldn’t agree with you more.

  • Great attitude and great post. I applaud it and share it. I just wrote an article on a similar subject and my blogging tool, Zemanta (which is great) brought up this post as related and I will be happy to include it as a related post under that entry.

    I used to have this little motto:

    Open minds disagree; closed minds disregard.